Your Responsibility is to Create Joy in Pain
Why it happens that no matter how much we plan, life takes turn and we find ourselves in pain? This is the nature of life. It is our duty to find light in the darkness.
Life brings challenges at every stage of life. What we can do is, first accept the negative shades of life and stop fighting with them. See bright side of everything and keep yourself delighted.
Do you think that one day all of your problems will get resolved and you will be happy forever? Forget it. It is never going to happen. You have to learn to be happy along with all the troubles life brings you.
As Milton Erickson said, “Life will bring you pain all by itself. Your responsibility is to create joy.”
Let us see how to Create Joy in Pain:
Do not wait for Result to Enjoy:
I can see people around me work hard to produce the desired result. They think that once they accomplish this, they would be happy and find some time to enjoy. Once they accomplish it, they got another assignment. This is life.
If you postpone your happiness for later, it will never come. Enjoy while working on daily activities. You have already heard it many times that Life is a journey. If you cannot enjoy your journey, destination will not give you much to enjoy. If you know how to enjoy journey, you know how to enjoy life.
Do not forget about Happiness:
Life is a never-ending mission. We cannot keep our happiness for retirement. By the time, you will forget what happiness is.
“Even if happiness forgets you a little bit, never completely forget about it.” ~ Jacques Prevert
Enjoy being Alive.
When did last time you wake up and said thanks to god for another lovely day. You can enhance the value of your day by paying gratitude every morning. Be happy that you have given another day. Enjoy being alive.
“The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
Today is a new day:
Every day when you wake up remind yourself that today is the new day. Forget all the pain you had on yesterday. Today brings new opportunities.
However, the reality is we live in the past. We often bring pain of past into today and spoil our chance to live in the present. Why do not you do the new? Feel the beauty of today and live it fully.
Happiness is a decision. If you can choose to be happy, you can be happy right now. If you set conditions to be happy, they will never get fulfil. Even if you met conditions, your happiness would not last as conditions keep changing.
Most of us buy material things to make us happy. These things can bring us comfort but not happiness. Comfort can provide us happiness for a while, but internal happiness is eternal happiness. Feel the bliss inside of you.
If you care for your happiness, happiness takes care of you. Find the activities that are close to your souls. Play like a kid. Being an adult never meant to serious 24 hours. Being a professional never meant to find happiness only in weekends. No matter how busy you are, do little things that you love. Care for yourself.
“Find a place inside where there’s joy, and the joy will burn out the pain.” ~ Joseph Campbell
Never Waste a day without Happiness:
How often you found yourself in the darkness of life. Do you remember at that time to switch on the light? Life is passing day by day and we are passing these days without really enjoying it. Most of us are actually not living life, but passing life.
Recall the days of your last month. How much you enjoyed it. How many happiness moments were there? If you are not able to find enough, you are not living enough. Stop wasting your days, stop wasting your life.
Give it a Break to the Problems:
Living on a fast food, our generation wants everything fast. We need quick fix for everything. We want shortcuts to the destination. If we did not get that, we curse fortune and ourselves. We start experiencing pain, stress or loneliness.
Just because one thing is not working for you, do not spend all your time crying about it. Leave it for a while and focus on other things. If you do not seem to find a solution, give it a break.
For an example, if you are not getting a decent job, keep preparing and have a break between. If a relationship does not working for you, take a break worrying about it. If your business meeting did not go as expected, do not ruin your rest of the day and take a break.
Do not forget to press your Happiness button
During break, do not forget to press your happiness button. There could be different form of happiness button for everyone. Play your favourite music track for a while. Go and have a walk for a while. Read a latest novel or something. Go for a movie or play your favourite sport.
“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” ~ Dalai Lama
When you switched on your happiness, it refreshes and boosts your mind’s power. You will feel more powerful to deal with the circumstances. Big problems seem little. You get to know that it is just the matter of time and everything will be all right.
Do you share happiness? It does not take much effort or time. Your one smile can share happiness around you. Spread the fragrance of happiness with your surroundings. As Mother Teresa said, “Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier.”
Life is hard for those who treat themselves as a victim of life. Life is fun for those who take it easy and find moments to laugh every day. No matter what worries you have, you can still find happiness around you. If you know how to find it, your problems will start hating you and go straight away.
One happiness moment leads to more happiness:
Happiness leads to happiness and sadness create sadness. It flows like a river, once you direct it. Suppose, one thing went wrong and it spoils your moments. Now if you forget to press your happiness button for long time, it will spoil your whole day.
Similarly, few happiness moments can leads to overflow of happiness. Let us create some happiness in the morning and you will be happy and delighted whole day.
Another way to create happiness is to make others happy. Give happiness and you will experience the bliss and joy. Spread happiness and smile around you. The more you give, the more it comes back to you.
There is not good or bad time for happiness. You can always find it. No matter how much darkness is there, one candle is just enough to spread light. Always remember to flame your happiness candle in life.
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